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Abstinence
You
may have heard this time and again, you should be abstinent or delay
having sex until later. But, you may wonder…What does this
mean? Why do you need to be abstinent? What is the big deal? Everyone
else is doing it, right?
Well,
you can be abstinent or avoid having sex until later in life and
still be part of your group of friends. People that abstain from
having sexual intercourse tend to be knowledgeable, independent,
and confident. Being abstinent shows that you are confident with
yourself, with who you are, and with your sexuality. You have nothing
to prove to anyone else. Besides, no one needs to know, this is
your choice.
Even
if you have had sex before, you can say no. Sometimes, you may be
in situations, that you feel that you "must have sex".
Well, this is not the case. Only you should make that decision,
no person should force you to have sex. If you are ever in a situation
like that, just remember, abstinence is the only sure way to avoid
getting an STD through sexual contact.
Making
Decisions
You
might consider abstinence for reasons of health, feeling emotionally
well, and for your own personal values. Whatever your reason might
be, making decisions about sexual contact should be made in a clear
mind.
Try
not to act on the "spur of the moment." Having sexual
intimacy with someone should be an important decision for you. It
should also be a planned event, not in the "heat of passion".
Think about it, try to know the person, talk, learn about his or
her past and health. Ask questions.
Remember,
it is better to do all of these things while sober. Don't use drugs
or alcohol while making decisions about having sex with a person.
Drugs and alcohol can affect your decision making skills and most
likely will lead you to make unhealthy choices.
Waiting
Can Be Good
You
might be curious to be with a person. But, there can be negative
consequences to being with someone you do not know well. One of
the most important outcomes, can be your health. Getting a sexually
transmitted disease (STD), may affect the rest of your life. It
can also affect you emotionally. Being with someone you know and
trust can be a great experience. So, delay having sex until you
are in mature mutually monogamous relationship. That is, you and
your partner are committed to each other in body, mind, and spirit,
and neither one of you is having sexual contact with other people.
Also,
the young body is more sensitive to getting sexually transmitted
diseases. The younger you are when you begin having sexual intercourse,
the higher risk you have to develop any STD. Also, chances are that
if you begin having sex an early age, you will have more sexual
partners through your lifetime, this also increases your chances
of getting an STD. So wait until you are a bit older and ready,
is totally worth it!
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